This time of year many people are looking at bonus and overtime paychecks in hopes they can bring in a little more before the end of the year. Make sure you are not shortchanging yourself for the future. While many may be putting in longer hours think about where you want to be next year. If you have different aspirations consider spending time learning what it will take to move ahead. For some people who remain focused on the present they often don’t see the bus to their future pulling in. Want to learn a new skill put yourself in front of people who can teach you. Not sure where you want to go head for things that make you happy. A hobby can often lead to meaningful employment with a little tweaking. Look for people who are successful doing what you want to do and then invite them to lunch, send them an e-mail or call them. You will be surprised at how many people want to help. Give yourself the gift of success this season by asking for what you want and communicating your dreams to everyone who will listen.
No doubt the winter holidays can be difficult to get through. Between added guests at your home, company parties and people asking for your money at every turn you can feel a strain on your day. But keep in mind your time is like cash. We all have 24 hours in a day and it is up to us to decide where to spend it. Oh sure there will be people who will want to rob it from you. Maybe a few who want to trick you out of it and others will try to demand you hand it over to them. But the decision is yours. Decide who you want to make a priority this holiday season. Have a Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year!
We wait a long time to grow up. As children we want to drive cars, make our own money and get away from mom and dad. But as the new year approaches it is time to think as parents, have we given our kids the skills they need to success without us? Will they be scared to live on their own or have we built a network of confidence to allow them to try new things? Will they seek advice from trusted sources and avoid frustration in their new worlds? As parents setting a good example is key. Making sure we demonstrate forgiveness and communication in our relationships will ensure that our children will walk out of our homes with a strong sense of who they want to become and how to respect others in the process.
This is the time of year many parents are finding themselves running back and forth between shopping and entertaining with little time to call their own. If you are feeling overwhelmed keep things in perspective. Try not to allow events and visitors to dictate your days.
Here are a few ways that can help maintain your sanity, get things done and allow you to enjoy the holiday season.
Time management-. Setting priorities daily is important as the days grow shorter and the weather draws people indoors.
Stay connected- Remember there are things family members can do without your direct involvement. Guide them with suggestions, show interest in their needs and help them when it is truly needed. But then let go and allow your family to use their own skills.
Communication-Talk with your family. Sit down and really listen to their ideas.
Dedicate time- Routines often make children feel safe because they are predictable. Bring visitors into your daily plans.
This is the season for fond memories. Take care of yourself so that you will have the energy to enjoy others.
Fall is a beautiful season filled with joy and friendship. But in between the smiles there may rest some grief from a current or past loss. When you gather this year be aware of those around you. If you or a loved one is experiencing grief understand that there is no time limit or best way to handle emotionally charged memories. It is okay to allow your feelings to show. Here are a few things to keep in mind:
Be around people if you do not want to be alone.
Stay in contact with those you trust and tell someone if your depression gets worse.
Shopping can be a trigger and it is okay to buy something for a lost love one. Put it
under the tree and celebrate their life.
Take care of yourself and allow others to prop you up when you are feeling down.
People have their own way of dealing with loss. It does get better but there is no set time on grief. Be kind to yourself and ask for help if you need support.
Did you know that each snowflake is unique? They are created to be beautiful in a special way unlike any other, just like the people in your family. This wonderful time of year enjoy the gifts your family brings you. Whether related by birth, marriage or friendship these exclusive individuals tie you to memories and dreams. Enjoy the love they want to share with you in their own special way.
Whether you are married or divorced you can still teach young people to treasure their relationships. It starts as early as elementary school. Making sure children are honest and honor their friends. As the middle school years move on young people who develop communication and listening skills set their path toward a healthy lifestyle. Finally, when children reach adulthood developing patience is a needed skill. Believe it or not it is that easy.These four elements: honesty, respect for others, communication and patience are the building blocks for a nurturing marriage.
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I find a lot of parents may find this statement easy to say but hard to believe. The fact is our children learn what to think about themselves from what they hear at home. The words uttered at the dinner table, during homework time or behind closed doors are powerful. Teaching children to carry themselves with confidence has a lot to do with how we speak to them. Reinforce your kids by using some of these phrases:
You are a wonderful child.
I appreciate your compassion for others.
Each challenge you have the courage to face will bring you closer to success.
You have been blessed with a lot of skills.
You are strong and have the ability to succeed.
I love you very much!
Words mean the world to all of us. Make sure you use your power wisely.
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During this wonderful time of year do not forget yourself. Take time to shop for yourself if that is what you like to do. If you are short on time utilize personal shoppers. They can help you find sizes, styles and colors. Keep in mind that large stores will often get shipments several times a week. Look for new items. Do you have limited time then be sure to make a shopping plan and research what you like on line. It is always great to keep others in mind as long as you are true to yourself.